Your PARENTS were not invited?!?!?! Wow, what's the story behind that?

You were married in January and wanted to bring a girl friend?

Doesn't sound like the start of a good relationship?

Dip, We were trying to keep it simple.

DD, look up the word "facetious".

On the other hand, the first time I got married, my fiance purposefully invited the g/f she stole me from as a joke. The former g/f actually came, looked pretty good, gave us some nice candlesticks (the ex-wife still uses them) and inherited $1 million 6 months later. Karma sucks.

MJ, your story is disappointing :-P

Coming from a large Italian family, we had 200+ guests at our wedding, but we assumed that everyone would bring a guest unless they told us otherwise.

We also had everyone pitch in (both sets of parents and us) to pay for it so we were able to accomidate all the guests that our parents wanted to invite.

Dip,

Were you expecting to hear that we had some screaming fight and I was disinherited? Sorry to disappoint. I gave the short answer.

We have both been married before, had the big wedding, saw no reason to repeat it. Didn't want people to feel obligated to buy us presents. Didn't want to spend money unnecessarily. We considered eloping, but I felt strongly about doing this in front of family. She has no family here other than her kids versus my entire family being within about 50 miles. State law requires that we have two witnesses other than the person performing the ceremony. We decided to invite our children from prior marriage to witness the ceremony. We made these plans about two weeks before the ceremony. They got discussed at a family gathering and my mother asked when and where. I had to explain our plans to her. She was somewhat disappointed, but not upset. I think my father was glad not to have to get gussied up for something.

wow, a thousand posts by me?

1001...

This is a case of bad social etiquette. Your BF can't pick his relatives. Your BF should go if he wants to. He shouldn't even mention it to the family...no need to taint someone else's wedding even if they aren't socially couth.

You should be relieved that you don't have to go. The fact that you aren't invited has nothing to do with you. Get. Over. It. Go shopping.

Yeah, don't let it get you down or have a long face.

<----- is sending him ^^^^ a wedding invite with a reply card for how many gifts he will be bringing

Was this addressed to me or the orignal poster? If it's to me, perhaps you didn't read my posts correctly...I don't care that I'm not going. My bf is the one who's upset (pretty upset apparently, I feel bad for him). I guess he had the invite for a while and never opened it. When he did finally open it recently, he found his RSVP card was already filled in for "1." I guess that's one way to make sure your invitees know exactly who is invited!

Aren't weddings a pain in the arse?

Amen... will elope next time around.

Don't worry peej, mine and your daughter's will go quite smoothly, I'm sure.