This story was on the Internet yesterday. I cried after reading it. For those of you who can't get to it, a couple was trying to adopt a baby girl <he's 61 wife is 44 - baby girl is 11 months>. They both had adult daughters from previous marriages.

To make a long story short he was sick. At first they thought pancreatic cancer, but then ruled it out. Eventually he was diagnosed with cancer and then got complications. He didn't have long and wanted to adopt her before he died so she could have his name and get some of his military benefits.

The adoption was final at 12:09 p.m. He died at 12:17.


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I don't get it. You would think that they would be risking the government saying that this was done to get her military benefits, and thus not give them when it is this obvious. I'm also surprised that an adoption was allowed to a dying man? Seems odd. I hope the wife can handle the daughter on her own.

This story also moved me when I read it. B_F they had been caring for the little girl for a while, they just needed the paperwork for it to be official.

B_F, seriously, would the government not end up paying for this child either way? At least she's in a loving home instead of bouncing around questionable family or foster care.

I'm just glad that the biologoical father had a good head on his shoulders and let it happen.

I am not quite sure of what your point is here, BF, but not having a husband around hasn't diminished my ability to raise my son. Actually, it's probably better for my son this way.

I gotta agree with DQ here BF. I don't post often in the cooler anymore but saw this and had to say something. I lost my husband last year. Granted my two boys are ours and they lost their Dad at a very young age, the fact that I'm on my own as the sole parent, hasn't diminished my ability to parent in the least either. Not making waves and don't think you meant any harm by your post but I'm just making a statement, we're doing ok.

Sorry guys. I didn't mean to stir up anything - I was just moved to tears by the story itself and how everything worked out the way 'dad' wanted it to.

I agree skittles, it was a touching story.

Me too Skittles, me too. Great story, loved it!

I'm not at all saying a single parent is diminishing to the child, but when I read the article, it seemed like the husband was the driving force behind the adoption, and he wasn't going to live. That just seemed very odd to me. I guess I missed that the woman wanted the child as much as the husband.

As it appears to be pick on BF day today.

Did any new bengals get arrested over the weekend?


Now for future reference this is the proper way to pick on BF.

<----Not picking on BF.

I see both sides, but I think in the end, since the couple had already been taking care of the child, this was for the best and well-deserved.

On a daily basis, GIs marry girls they barely know, and that is done so that they get military benefits and an increase in their housing allowance. In many cases, it is done JUST before a deployment. It is obvious in many of those cases, too, that they are doing it 100% for the benefits.

That would be a better place to start a crackdown on benefits, then I'd move to cutting the hazardous fire pay to officers who spend a day or less in a "hostile" zone each month. But that is another thread. Too much corruption BY those in the military to go after those takind advantage OF the military at this point in time.

I didn't feel like anyone picked on me in this thread at all, even asking about idiot Bengals players. I'm no longer backing the Bengals at all, won't root for them, sold off all merchandise (except for a can of Hu-Dey beer), and returned all the bengals glasses to the doorstep of the Pro-Shop in a bag with them broken months ago. Until Mike Brown dies, the franchise will never be able to turn the corner.

This was my first reaction until I read all the full articles I could. One article didn't even mention the wife. I thought, "who allows a man to adopt a child when the man is going to die in five minutes?"

For what it's worth, I'm adopted. Finally hearing the whole story made me beyond happy; I think this is just great, to be honest.