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#1639326 - 12/15/11 02:30 PM
Re: 12 Year Old Having Problems @ School
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Are there any youth mentoring programs in your area? Some good ones in our area are Teammates and Big Brothers/Big Sisters. Sometimes just having a positive 'outside' adult influence makes a big difference.
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#1639349 - 12/15/11 03:05 PM
Re: 12 Year Old Having Problems @ School
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I agree with BF. From your post it appears the only problems are at school so something is triggering it. Could they put him into a private school to change the environment?
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#1639439 - 12/15/11 04:10 PM
Re: 12 Year Old Having Problems @ School
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I would definetly say a new school is in order, if not a private one, then maybe a different public one in another town. It would be hard on the family to move, but maybe in the long run that's what he needs.
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#1639686 - 12/15/11 06:59 PM
Re: 12 Year Old Having Problems @ School
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Not a group home. In a group home you have a lot of trouble youth bottled up together and they learn from each other. Sometimes it can be a good experience, but not always. Not a good option for a child with loving parents.
Does your school system have a cyberschool option? IF mom or dad could stay at home with him and oversee his school work, that may be an option as well.
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#1640645 - 12/19/11 06:33 PM
Re: 12 Year Old Having Problems @ School
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Talk to your local CYFD, most places have programs, kind of like big brothers/sisters, but they will stay with them all day long at school, so that the kid has someone to look up to, talk to and get guidance from when they start acting out. My middle daughter had to do that, it's called teambuilders here, I don't know if it's called the same thing everywhere though.
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#1640669 - 12/19/11 07:06 PM
Re: 12 Year Old Having Problems @ School
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This is for mom and dad to deal with, not you, no matter how close of a friend you are. Dad's answer about checking into private and alternative schools sounded ho-hum, although that may just be my read on it. But, if the school board attorney and superintendant are both involved and are recommending group home, the school has already made up their mind that he is a lost cause. People at that level do not get involved with normal disciplinary issues for 6th/7th graders.
I have never seen a kid who was this bad in school that did not display some type of this behavior at home as well. Sounds like mom and dad need to grow a set and start disciplining the kid, and quit acting like his friend and start acting like parents. get involved, if they haven't found a counselor who works, then they need to keep looking. And quit being in denial that he only does this in school...
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#1641206 - 12/20/11 07:17 PM
Re: 12 Year Old Having Problems @ School
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I had a kid like this, she rarely acted out at home, and never as bad as she did at school, sure there were a few times that she lost her temper at home, but it was an everyday thing at school. I was paying attention, and I am a very strict parent, and I believe in spankings, and she got plenty. She was diagnosed as pre-bipolar, apparently they can't formerly diagnose children as bipolar until after puberty. But after figuring her out, and teaching her how to deal with her emotions (I don't believe in putting my kids on meds unless absolutely necessary, I'd rather teach mine how to deal), she is good now.
She acted out more at school because she didn't have that "safe place" to go when she started feeling "not right" at home she could go, be by herself in her room.
I do agree with Happy that it's the parents issue not yours, but I commend you for being concerned. But sorry happy, it's not always a case of inadequate parenting, sometimes there's actually something wrong.
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#1641386 - 12/20/11 10:55 PM
Re: 12 Year Old Having Problems @ School
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I agree with MunQue. My son had been acting out in class (not to this degree though) with no troubles at home and we had him tested for ADD and he is. With medication he has come around. Also, there could be some other reasons why he is acting out in school. If it were my son, I would take a week's vacation and go to school with him everyday to observe the day-to-day activity. If that is not possible, send a grandparent to observe the daily routine.
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#1662821 - 02/09/12 06:22 PM
Re: 12 Year Old Having Problems @ School
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I don't normally comment but.... It was not my intent to say that it was my issue Summer, I certainly didn't think that was your intent....You are concerned for a friend...and I don't blame you. I would have done the same thing. In my opinion, they are lucky to have you. Some people have jumped on the parent thing really quickly. Just remember that until you have walked in their shoes...you should not judge..
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