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#1913629 - 04/10/14 08:42 PM
Re: Caring for our parents
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There is really no controlling mom. Its more a matter of trying to out guess her. And most of that comes from experience after the fact. For instance dont just let mom get up at a restaraunt because you think, or because she says she needs to go to the restroom. Why? Because she may sit down with strangers on the way to the bathroom and tell one of them they have a really large behind. So ok, lesson learned there.
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#1913635 - 04/10/14 08:48 PM
Re: Caring for our parents
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tell one of them they have a really large behind.
Could be that they do not know this fact and she is providing a much needed community service.
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#1913637 - 04/10/14 08:52 PM
Re: Caring for our parents
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It is a something she has really taken to heart. When we have her in public places, we try to steer her away from those that are booty enhanced. But I'm telling you, for a little, tiny women, she is really quick over a short distance and is sometimes strongely motivated to share the message.
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#1913697 - 04/11/14 12:35 PM
Re: Caring for our parents
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she may sit down with strangers on the way to the bathroom and tell one of them they have a really large behind Remind me never to turn my back on your Mom. The filters are gone; they say what they always wanted to say.
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#1913701 - 04/11/14 12:57 PM
Re: Caring for our parents
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Dad never showed mom how to write checks.
Well mom has a memory issue and quite possibly dad showed her how several times just like the 50 times I did the past month with her asking each time can you show me how to write checks. Ed...be careful on this one. My dad always paid the bills, although my mother could write a check. Having said that, at some point she started adding extra zero's...NOT a good thing!!! Needless to say, I took over the check-writing real quick and in a hurry for her and for my Aunt,who I think I mentioned, gave tons of money away to scammers before I found out about it.
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#1913716 - 04/11/14 01:36 PM
Re: Caring for our parents
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I took over the check book already.
she will not give money to anyone 'even the ones that she is supposed to give it to.
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#1913756 - 04/11/14 02:48 PM
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It is a something she has really taken to heart. When we have her in public places, we try to steer her away from those that are booty enhanced. But I'm telling you, for a little, tiny women, she is really quick over a short distance and is sometimes strongely motivated to share the message. Could you please NOT do that without a spew warning BB1!!! Holy carp. I can just picture 6'+ you trying to steer someone the size of my 4'10" mother away from a unsuspecting booty target. I can't stop giggling at the mental image. Sorry...but I think we all needed a good chortle so thank you. Oh its watch worthy, I promise! The TV people would pay good money for it as a reality show. We have been lucky so far in that people are both understanding and have a nice sense of humor about it. I am sure that we have made someones day with a good story to tell.
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#1913786 - 04/11/14 03:16 PM
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I don't have children so my niece thinks that she's going to take care of me when I am old. I told her not to worry and just put me in a comfortable room with cable TV, an internet connection and my Kindle and I will be fine. Homes for the elderly need to catch up on technology quickly. I cannot see the baby boomers choosing a retirement/nursing home without wifi. In my MIL's nursing home, which is top quality, you can't even get a decent cellphone connection.
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#1913795 - 04/11/14 03:26 PM
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I always wonder how old people will sound 60 years from now when they're pining for the "old music" played by Snoop Dogg or Wu Tang Clan.
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#1913799 - 04/11/14 03:35 PM
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I got strange looks from a 20 something this morning because I had the roof open, the windows down and Black Sabbath banging away on the car radio.... So I guess I'm there.
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#1913814 - 04/11/14 03:45 PM
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I'm right there with you, BB!
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#1914122 - 04/14/14 02:04 PM
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Has the cold front not come through OK yet? It's chilly here in the Lone Star.
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#1914264 - 04/14/14 05:32 PM
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I envision when it is my time to occupy a space in the Dementia Unit, that my day will totally consist of eating, sleeping and giving the kids that work there a hard time.
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#1914267 - 04/14/14 05:39 PM
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One of THE most frustrating things I encountered once Mom was pretty far 'along' was that the staff did not take the time it took to get food into her. When mama still had her apartment, I hired a girl to 'sit' with her, take her to the store/hair appointments/out to lunch...stuff like that. Eventually, she generally stayed all night and most of the day. Well, she became like a family member (at least to me!). Either she or I would do our best to be at the home (which was out in the country nowhere near my work/house) for at least one meal a day to ensure she was given the time it took.
Eventually, even that was not enough tho...the eventual helplessness you may have to face at some point is one of the hardest things you may ever encounter in your lifetime. But all you can do is keep trying...and keep being there.
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#1914274 - 04/14/14 05:48 PM
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Very true! Luckily, my parents planned well in advance. They both had living wills, a cemetary plot paid for and POA's for us girls.
A lot of parents DON'T plan well and a lot of siblings (or the other spouse) do NOT see things the same way necessarily.
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#1914330 - 04/14/14 07:14 PM
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And we're going to have a problem if my father goes first. He wants to be cremated - and mom (he doesn't know this) won't do that. Hey - it's not my first choice either, but it's his.
Both of my parents have living wills and my sister is their POA. Have to take these documents every where they go - every hospital stay, every test, etc.
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