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#2121749 - 03/13/17 07:09 PM
Re: Caring for our parents
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So very sorry for your loss Skittles. My deepest condolences to you and your family. Prayers for all...
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#2121782 - 03/13/17 08:15 PM
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I am so sorry for your loss, Skittles . ((((HUGS))))
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#2122034 - 03/15/17 02:51 PM
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Oh Skittles, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Sending lots of thoughts and prayers your way during these difficult times.
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#2122493 - 03/17/17 06:38 PM
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Thank you all - and thanks to Cracked Egg.
With the help of Hosparus and my sister and younger brother she was able to pass at home - in her sleep - exactly what she wanted. She had the opportunity to go out with the majority of her family for her 92nd birthday in late February. She is no longer in pain and is with dad now.
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#2122626 - 03/20/17 02:59 PM
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((( Skittles )))
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#2122640 - 03/20/17 03:20 PM
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Skittles,
So sorry for your loss, but glad your mom isn't suffering anymore. She will always be with you.
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#2122657 - 03/20/17 03:47 PM
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Thanks - and you're right; however losing both parents in less than 16 months has bee very hard. I was able to spend about 4 hours with her the day before she passed and she knew who I was - and was coherent about 50% of the time. The original thought was that she would be with us for about 2 more weeks, but it turned out to be less than 24 hours. Yesterday would have been their wedding anniversary.
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#2131256 - 05/19/17 09:46 PM
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We've been through the ringer with my folks over the last few months and it's not done yet. My Dad passed in December and we had to move Mom to memory care. At the time we moved her, she was quite forgetful, but she still could carry on a semi-normal conversation. In the 5 months she's been in memory care, her cognition is on the rapid decline. We all feel horrible about it, not sure if it would have happened anyway or if being in the facility sped things along.
I live about 2 hours away from her and I've been visiting every other Sunday and calling every night. Last night she told me she was in a hostage situation (she's funny sometimes and always has a story when I call). The poor PA (personal assistant) was in her room about 8 p.m. trying to get Mom to put her PJ's on. My Mom hates being on a schedule like this..and I feel bad for her. But we understand the facility has 21 memory impaired seniors and getting them to bed is something they start pretty much right after dinner. My brother tried keeping her at his home, but Mom is incontinent at times and that is a big mess on a fairly regular basis and the camel/straw was when she fell in her room and decided she didn't want to wake anyone so she laid on the floor all night. My brother ran for the hills and I do not blame him.
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#2131263 - 05/20/17 12:20 AM
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DD, although you feel bad, it's probably the safest place for her. My dad had no memory issues, but sometimes got involved in something else. We had to get rid of our toaster oven for fear he would put some bread in there, then walk off and leave it. Inlaws one would take double meds, other forget to take any.
It's not the same love they would get at home, but the care is probably similar.
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#2131269 - 05/22/17 12:14 PM
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Daisy - I'm so sorry you're going through this. I went through something similar, although neither one of my parents was in memory care. You are doing the right thing. This is the best and safest place for her. I know my mom appreciated my daily phone calls since I was 4 hours away.
{{HUGS}}
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#2131311 - 05/22/17 03:36 PM
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This tread gives me comfort. After my MIL passed in January, we put my FIL in a care facility. He moved from a large house to sharing a room with another person, so he has had quite an adjustment, but he needs 24/7 care that neither myself or his only child my husband can give. Sometimes, he still gives us the "blues" and I have had to step away because I am also have my father in the same nursing home and my husband has a chronic illness, so I have to take care of my sanity. Dealing with elderly parents and in laws requires a lot of patience and understanding. Wish everyone the best.
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#2158211 - 12/22/17 03:14 PM
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I need to get safety equipment installed at my mother's bathtub. Has anyone done this before? The bar(s) for getting in and out of the tub plus the bar on the wall for helping in getting up and down in the tub. Any help/comments would be appreciated.
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#2158219 - 12/22/17 03:35 PM
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We got a transfer chair for my parents that fits over the tub. They sit on it and slide across into the tub - no need to stand. Worked really well.
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#2158238 - 12/22/17 04:57 PM
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All good info. Thank you! I will check into "nextdoor.com" right now.
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#2158266 - 12/22/17 05:55 PM
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We had hired a company that cut a section out of the side of my father in law's tub to minimize the step over as balance was a problem for him. As others mentioned, we installed several grab bars for additional support.
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