Given the potential risk for the bank to be dragged into the middle of a family dispute and the fact that laws very by state with respect to what document takes precedence, this is a matter to be discussed with bank counsel.
Welcome to BOL and I'm sorry that I can't give you more. We primarily cover consumer compliance and a myriad of operational discussions, but can't give legal advice.
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