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#550212 - 05/18/06 04:34 PM
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Okay, to those who said that internet dating is for people who are desperate and pathetic or can't do it any other way- I go to bars/clubs to drink and have fun with my friends, not to meet drunk girls and try to get laid... If not being shallow makes me pathetic then thats news to me. I only recently tried online dating and I got to know the person much more that way than I could have from trying to hold a conversation in a place where you can barely hear anything. Also, the best part about online dating is you can weed out the ones you're not interested in before you even talk to them because you can look at a profile with information about them. The first person I dated online was the only person I sent a message to after looking at over 200 profiles... Now no public place that I could have gone to could have allowed me to meet over 200 people and weed through them in that amount of time.
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#550213 - 05/18/06 04:35 PM
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so is this ron?
perhaps... 
i hope you were able to read around typos.
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#550216 - 05/18/06 04:42 PM
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#550218 - 05/18/06 04:51 PM
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I know of four couples who met online and ended up married. One marraige lasted less than a month, the others are still going strong. The difference is that the first one didn't just use online to meet, but they conducted almost their entire relationship online, too, so they got married without having much "in person" time together. The other three met and got started online, but then continued their "courtship" in person in the conventional way. As long as you realize that online dating just another alternative to getting started, not a substitute for really getting to know each other, you should be fine.
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#550219 - 05/18/06 04:58 PM
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I know of four couples who met online and ended up married. One marraige lasted less than a month, the others are still going strong. The difference is that the first one didn't just use online to meet, but they conducted almost their entire relationship online, too, so they got married without having much "in person" time together. The other three met and got started online, but then continued their "courtship" in person in the conventional way. As long as you realize that online dating just another alternative to getting started, not a substitute for really getting to know each other, you should be fine.
I 100% agree, its a great way to meet people, but you arent gonna get far with a person that you dont physically spend time with
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#550220 - 05/18/06 05:00 PM
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Okay, to those who said that internet dating is for people who are desperate and pathetic or can't do it any other way- I go to bars/clubs to drink and have fun with my friends, not to meet drunk girls and try to get laid... If not being shallow makes me pathetic then thats news to me. I only recently tried online dating and I got to know the person much more that way than I could have from trying to hold a conversation in a place where you can barely hear anything. Also, the best part about online dating is you can weed out the ones you're not interested in before you even talk to them because you can look at a profile with information about them. The first person I dated online was the only person I sent a message to after looking at over 200 profiles... Now no public place that I could have gone to could have allowed me to meet over 200 people and weed through them in that amount of time.
good for you, I'm happy you found someone....but didn't you say she's not the person that you thought she was, and that you are thinking about breaking up with her? 
She's exactly who I thought she was, but I had myself convinced that that was what I wanted... Now I realize that its not quite what I need but she is still a great girl and someone is gonna be lucky to have her.
but still fact remains you don't like her so when you say you convinced yourself that that's what you wanted, in essence you are saying that she isn't what you thought she was(for you), i never said she wasn't a great girl i just said that aren't you breaking up with her, b/c of some things that you discovered that you don't like about her, anyway paul i'm not going to waste any more of my time arguing so i'm agreeing to disagree, btw i still luv u   
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#550221 - 05/18/06 05:30 PM
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I've never tried the on-line thing, exactly. Had a friend who tried it for a while - she was a lot braver than I. A lady I know really wanted to set me up with her son. She said we had a lot in common and I could see that "potential daughter-in-law gleam" in her eye. So, she exchanged our e-mail addresses. We corresponded a few times, but the timing was all wrong for me. I may have to find out what happened to him - we did have a number of common interests.
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#550223 - 05/18/06 06:12 PM
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Why is it that when you see a picture first, that creates the whole image if you like them or not? So many people are this way and it is not fair to them or to yourself. You may like the person first, exchange a few emails, they seem interested, then you exchange pics and all of a sudden they dont want to talk to you anymore. Why hassle with the whole thing? I just think it is a big let down.
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#550224 - 05/18/06 06:13 PM
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I agree CG, but then the problem I have had is this: you meet someone online, they seem nice, and then you meet and there is no chemisty! This is the biggest problem I have with online dating. You've spent all this time getting to know someone and it's all for nothing.
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#550225 - 05/18/06 06:13 PM
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I agree CG, but then the problem I have had is this: you meet someone online, they seem nice, and then you meet and there is no chemisty! This is the biggest problem I have with online dating. You've spent all this time getting to know someone and it's all for nothing.
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#550226 - 05/18/06 06:15 PM
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yes file queen you can get the feel of chemistry when your out somewhere
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#550227 - 05/18/06 06:18 PM
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I agree CG, but then the problem I have had is this: you meet someone online, they seem nice, and then you meet and there is no chemisty! This is the biggest problem I have with online dating. You've spent all this time getting to know someone and it's all for nothing.
So you like this person enough to go out and meet them right? They are nice, you share interests, and a friendship begins to form. But if you meet them in person and there is no "chemistry" it's all for nothing? I guess that means you can't accept it as friendship and not something more and continue to get to know them? Love at first sight leads to divorce. In a lasting relationship, the chemistry builds from the friendship.
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#550230 - 05/18/06 06:27 PM
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I agree CG, but then the problem I have had is this: you meet someone online, they seem nice, and then you meet and there is no chemisty! This is the biggest problem I have with online dating. You've spent all this time getting to know someone and it's all for nothing.
So you like this person enough to go out and meet them right? They are nice, you share interests, and a friendship begins to form. But if you meet them in person and there is no "chemistry" it's all for nothing? I guess that means you can't accept it as friendship and not something more and continue to get to know them? Love at first sight leads to divorce. In a lasting relationship, the chemistry builds from the friendship.
Funny, that's what I told myself when I married my ex, but it never happened. So forgive me if I don't believe that anymore! 
You know what? Noone said you should marry someone before that chemistry builds. However, if you miss out on real friendships because you are seeking something more and are blinded to something even more precious than someone to date that you are attracted to, that's your loss.
However, you should realize one thing. What you find attractive is transitory. It changes based on many things. Perhaps the first time you meet the guy, he's wearing a color you don't like. Maybe he didn't get a lot of sleep and he's got a little tired looking thing going on. Maybe the wind ruffled his hair. Maybe you just had a bad day. Who knows, if you snap to judgement well, you'll never know.
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#550231 - 05/18/06 06:30 PM
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Okay, to those who said that internet dating is for people who are desperate and pathetic or can't do it any other way- I go to bars/clubs to drink and have fun with my friends, not to meet drunk girls and try to get laid... If not being shallow makes me pathetic then thats news to me. I only recently tried online dating and I got to know the person much more that way than I could have from trying to hold a conversation in a place where you can barely hear anything. Also, the best part about online dating is you can weed out the ones you're not interested in before you even talk to them because you can look at a profile with information about them. The first person I dated online was the only person I sent a message to after looking at over 200 profiles... Now no public place that I could have gone to could have allowed me to meet over 200 people and weed through them in that amount of time.
good for you, I'm happy you found someone....but didn't you say she's not the person that you thought she was, and that you are thinking about breaking up with her?
She's exactly who I thought she was, but I had myself convinced that that was what I wanted... Now I realize that its not quite what I need but she is still a great girl and someone is gonna be lucky to have her.
but still fact remains you don't like her so when you say you convinced yourself that that's what you wanted, in essence you are saying that she isn't what you thought she was(for you), i never said she wasn't a great girl i just said that aren't you breaking up with her, b/c of some things that you discovered that you don't like about her, anyway paul i'm not going to waste any more of my time arguing so i'm agreeing to disagree, btw i still luv u
this is the last thing im gonna say
You said (in bold none the less) that I dont like her... Thats not true, I really do like her but I just think we might be better off as friends. I havent even completely decided that though, after I talk to her about a couple things I might still end up staying with her depending on how it goes and what I find out.
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#550234 - 05/19/06 06:00 PM
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Go slowly, be careful and it can be a great way to meet more people. Using the Internet (not dating sites) I corresponded with loads of local women and met several of them casually after a few e-mails back and forth. I found it a great way to increase the pool, as discussed by many above. That all ended 10 years ago shortly after I tripped over my wife's online profile. We wrote (increasingly longer) e-mails for a few weeks, had a few telephone conversations and then met for drinks. We've been happily married for 8 years now.
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yes i was able to!! thanks for asking 
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