My husband and I have been trying for the last 4 to 5 months (I know that isn't very long) to have our 2nd child, but we aren't having any luck. Right now I am very disappointed and upset about it. We only tried for 3 months for the 1st one and I just knew that I would get pregnant right away this time, but I haven't. I know that stress can be a big issue and both my husband and I have had a lot of stress b/c of our jobs in the last couple of months. Hopefully my stress is about to decrease a lot b/c I have hired an assistant that will start in a week. Hopefully my husbands will decrease in the next couple of weeks when he hopefully slows down.

If anyone has any advice or knows of any good Old Wives Tales that work, please send them my way.
Also, any prayers for God to please me with another child.

For now, just relax. One chld took us 18 months, the other "just happened". The only other piece of advice is that if you are older, you might want to get a full check up. We were told that the older you are, the less time you should give yourself to "try", and start looking into making sure everything is working the way it should. Plus it may give you some piece of mind that everything is fine.
Also, look at it this way - it was a good thing that you didn't get pregnant right away - all that stress is not good for the baby!!

Put a sprig of mistletoe under your mattress.

Living - one of my older brother's and his wife had the same situation. Immediately got pregnant with their first and a few years later when they decided to have their 2nd, couldn't. If memory serves (their youngest is now 27), they tried for quite awhile and then stopped trying (and actually used a form of birth control) and she got pregnant. Don't give up. I know 4-5 months seems like a long time, but in the grand scheme of things it's really not.

I went to a GYN who happened to be a fertility expert. I told her that I was going to start trying to have my first child. This is what she said. From the last day of menstr. count 10 days, then begin "trying" every other day for another 10 days. (can't be everyday). To help my chances I bought an ovulation kit. Well - we got lucky the first month we tried. Good luck and let us know. (relax it took my sister law 1 year with her second)

i hear it takes about a year for most couples trying to have a baby. also, my friends were jsut told (one pregnant, the other trying) that about 50% of all pregnancies end up in miscarriage in the first trimester. i had no idea! but stress will do it...i've seen that with my friends big time.

Not to be graphic... but if there's a lot of foreplay the er, end result can be diluted so-to-speak by other fluids. It's romantic to say it was the perfect setting but I know most of the women in my life got pregnant in a quickie... :: No... none are mine. Hope that maybe helps... ::shrugs:: I'm more in the business of avoiding that, so my adive is probably rudimentry at best. Sorry...

Thank you all for your advice. I know that I shouldn't let it eat at me, but it is kind of hard not too, especially when everyone asks me if and when we are going to have another child. I know that when the time is right I will get pregnant, but it is just hard to convince my heart and my mind of that right now.

I think you just gave yourself the BEST piece of advice... "I know when the time is right I will get pregnant."

The best piece of advice is in your screen name.

Enjoy the husband and child you already have in your life. Get excited about your new assistant at your job. Plan some leisure activities to celebrate this new phase of your career. Reduce your stress any way you can; exercise and sleep an extra half hour a day each to start off with. Try not to focus on trying to get pregnant; it definitely won't help and studies have shown that the added stress of "trying" decreases your fertility. If another child comes along, wonderful. If not, after several more months, go see a fertility specialist and take the next step.

But for right now, enjoy each moment, as it comes, and don't wish away the time, situation, and place you are in RIGHT NOW. If you do that, you'll look up one day and realize you wished away your entire life, just waiting "until ______" happens. And the child you do have right now will sense and worry about your stress in worrying about having another baby... I doubt you want to stress out your child. So decide not to. Oftentimes when people put "trying" on the back burner and don't think about it at all for a few weeks, *that's* when they find themselves pregnant.

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have you both been medically checked to see if there is a reason you aren't?

BurntSienna-Thank you so much for the advice and the pep talk. I really needed that today! Thanks again! Have a great weekend!

HG-not yet. I think I am going to try and quit focusing so much on it. If after a couple more months I don't, then I will.

LLOMAAT (OMG, that was long!), You have to do what you feel is best for your family and you.

I actually cried when I gave notice at my last job because I was there forever, I grew up there.

So, if you like the money and like the job, go for it! Best of Luck.

When I was trying, doc said 6 months, then we would start to look at fertility issues. I was 32 at the time.

You're very welcome, and you'll be in my prayers, LivingLife.

I am sorry, I posted to the wrong thread... (kicks herself...)

You might be tired of hearing stories, but I'd like to share this one:

I was going to a fertility clinic. Someone from work was going to the same place at the same time. Sometime during the summer their future visits were affected by insurance. They had to wait until January to begin the next "round". Lo and behold when they went in January they were told there was nothing the clinic could do for them. They were shocked and asked why. Because they were already pregnant they were told with huge smiles all around.

They truly attributed it to the fact that during the summer they had laid their stress and worry aside until the coming January.
Now they have three little girls!

no pun intended???

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