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#1991402 - 01/27/15 06:15 PM
Re: Financial Infidelity! Women and children suffer
Pale Rider
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Yes.
Neither Mrs. Noelekal or I require a confessional over spending and both have spent over $500 without advising the other.
It's not as if this is a regular occurrence for there isn't so much ready cash lying around for us to blow. So it's a non-issue in our household. We do trust each other to use good sense and both "pull in the harness" together on finances.
One supposes that a whole new federal bureaucratic agency will soon be created to address this "problem" with an entire battery of detailed disclosures required of American couples on the matter and civil money penalties being assessed for non-compliance.
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#1991417 - 01/27/15 06:34 PM
Re: Financial Infidelity! Women and children suffer
Pale Rider
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We always decide on major purchases together.
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#1991428 - 01/27/15 06:49 PM
Re: Financial Infidelity! Women and children suffer
Pale Rider
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You would not believe the women at this place who have accounts their husbands don't know about and it is THEIR money and he has NO say over what she spends it on.
Far as I know the wife and I have combined everything. We don't make major purchases without consulting the other.
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#1991437 - 01/27/15 06:57 PM
Re: Financial Infidelity! Women and children suffer
RR Joker
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What is a significant other? Something I think I'm better off without.
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#1991445 - 01/27/15 07:08 PM
Re: Financial Infidelity! Women and children suffer
DD Regs
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You would not believe the women at this place who have accounts their husbands don't know about and it is THEIR money and he has NO say over what she spends it on.
Far as I know the wife and I have combined everything. We don't make major purchases without consulting the other. Same here! I review employee accounts and there a lot that have a percentage of their paycheck into another account that their spouse is not on. I'd never hide money from my spouse.
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#1991464 - 01/27/15 07:28 PM
Re: Financial Infidelity! Women and children suffer
Pale Rider
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We're both frugal, so we talk over everything. Not only does my wife tell me exactly what she spent, she gives me a coupon by coupon description of what she didn't spend.
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#1991471 - 01/27/15 07:44 PM
Re: Financial Infidelity! Women and children suffer
CompliantOkie
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Nope. Hubby and I have a $200 limit unless it's for things like groceries or clothes for the kids. Our finances are 100% combined so we both have equal access to all accounts etc. Same here.
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#1991474 - 01/27/15 07:50 PM
Re: Financial Infidelity! Women and children suffer
RR Jen
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What is a significant other? Something I think I'm better off without. Yeah..I think so too!
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#1991481 - 01/27/15 08:00 PM
Re: Financial Infidelity! Women and children suffer
Pale Rider
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My expenditures go something like this:
GuitarDude - "Do you really need another guitar?"
GuitarDude - "I don't need it but I want it.
GuitarDude - ::clicks "Buy it Now"::
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#1991487 - 01/27/15 08:12 PM
Re: Financial Infidelity! Women and children suffer
Pale Rider
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would never spend $500 or greater without first saying so...of course, I hate to spend money, so I would stress over it much longer than her...I've been contemplating buying a new bike, but the model I want is close to $3500...it was only $2900 3 years ago when I started to contemplate...probably by the time I get around to pulling the trigger it will be about $4500...
she'd drop $500 in a heartbeat if I said "sure"
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#1991500 - 01/27/15 08:23 PM
Re: Financial Infidelity! Women and children suffer
RR Jen
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What is a significant other? Something I think I'm better off without. Danged if I know.....
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#1991505 - 01/27/15 08:28 PM
Re: Financial Infidelity! Women and children suffer
Pale Rider
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so only women and children suffer? does that mean men just do not care, or that we are immune to that kind of suffering? O_o
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#1991519 - 01/27/15 08:47 PM
Re: Financial Infidelity! Women and children suffer
Pale Rider
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i think the implication of the study is that men do it more so their spouses/kids suffer
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#1991561 - 01/27/15 09:38 PM
Re: Financial Infidelity! Women and children suffer
Pale Rider
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I hide extra money in my sock drawer just to say I can. It makes me feel better. Call it obsessive compulsive disorder
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#1991634 - 01/28/15 02:15 PM
Re: Financial Infidelity! Women and children suffer
Lil Firecracker
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I handle all of the finances and have tried to fill my wife in on everything, but she doesn't seem to want to know. I do have some investment accounts that she isn't on. She is the beneficiary, but I'm not sure why I didn't put her on them to begin with. They're not secret accounts, but she doesn't seem interested in knowing much about them.
I'm not a big spender, so I wouldn't likely make any big purchases without her knowing. I've paid-down and paid-off debt without her knowing, does that count?
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