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#370973 - 06/08/05 07:02 PM Old Farts???
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Have my hubby and I become old farts? We have been married for a year and in the past 2 years we have just become so blah. He doens't shave, doesn't get haircuts, is always in sweats or gym like clothes. I have gained almost thirty pounds - yes 30 - and we do not do anything. Our friends always said we were a nice young good looking couple who was a lot of fun and loved to party with the best of them. Now I don't do anything cause I "feel fat" and he using me feeling fat as his reason he doesn't do anything anymore. I have a started a serious diet and exercise program and I am finally starting whip my self in shape, he on the other is a bum, a big sloppy bum who guite honestly discusts me. Now I know when cuples get married things change. But we are only 24 and 25. Any suggestions or comments?
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#370974 - 06/08/05 07:05 PM Re: Old Farts???
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I would explain to him how you feel, and include him in on the diet. Take walks together; we always go to the beach, it's quiet and we can walk and talk... Remind him of what you guys used to do together.

And good luck.
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#370975 - 06/08/05 07:09 PM Re: Old Farts???
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Unfortunately, it is easy to fall into that rut. DQ makes some great points-my wife and I did the South Beach diet together last year-made it a lot easier than just having one of us on it. We try to go on walks, and go to the gym together. Does he want to work out, lose weight etc? Has anything changed in his life?
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#370976 - 06/08/05 07:13 PM Re: Old Farts???
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Being married only changes things if you allow it to. My honey and I have been together going on 9 years. We have only been married for the last year. Nothing for us changed, except that we treat each other even better than before. Seemed that making that extra commitment of marriage brought us even closer together. Is there anything else that may have caused such a tragic change in your lifestyles? Was getting married something your both wanted?

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#370977 - 06/08/05 07:46 PM Re: Old Farts???
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Anon, unfortunately many if not most people fall into this rut. I did it in my marriage. Something with the comfort factor and not having to go out and find something maybe. I believe it's the cause of many partings of married couples unfortunately.

Suzy, I think you are on the right track. You have to take care of yourself first and then I bet he will pick up on it and start taking better care of himself. You can't do it for him, he needs to realize it himself and get moving again. Good luck.
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#370978 - 06/08/05 07:51 PM Re: Old Farts???
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stop smoking pot!!

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#370979 - 06/08/05 07:52 PM Re: Old Farts???
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have more sex

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#370980 - 06/08/05 07:56 PM Re: Old Farts???
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Thanks, but that is the problem. My husband has this thing, which I will not go into now, that keeps him from gaining weight. He is always eating a lot of food with alot of calories and fat and that is the opposite of what I want to do. He also work outs but is only doing bulk building exercise. That is the trouble. I am going low cal and low fat and working to lose weight, he his eating the opposite and working to gain wieght.
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#370981 - 06/08/05 08:01 PM Re: Old Farts???
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Do not even joke about pot with me. If I could destroy every pot plant in the world, I would do it.

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#370982 - 06/08/05 08:04 PM Re: Old Farts???
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Could the two of you go to the gym together? Him to pump up and you to work it off?

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#370983 - 06/08/05 08:07 PM Re: Old Farts???
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i don;t think i am ever going to get married after reading this!
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#370984 - 06/08/05 08:16 PM Re: Old Farts???
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Don't say that dipitous. Marriage is what you make of it. COMMUNICATION, COMMUNICATION, COMMUNICATION.

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#370985 - 06/08/05 08:31 PM Re: Old Farts???
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You're too young to get in a rut- work out together and like anon said ----communication is the key. You seem to be working toward a goal with yourself and that should make you feel great about yourself. Talk to your husband- I hope everything works out with you both.
My husband is my best friend even though he drives me crazy alot with his negative attitude- but I'm sure I drive him crazy with trying to keep everyone happy happy. Anyhow I can talk to him about everything and although we disagree about some things we are there for each other. Good luck.

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#370986 - 06/08/05 09:18 PM Re: Old Farts???
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This is serious, but I need more information to provide the answer.

You are old farts when:
1. Going bra-less pulls all the wrinkles out of your face.
2. You don't care where your spouse goes, just as long as you don't have to go along.
3. Getting a little action means I don't need fiber today.
4. Getting lucky means you find your car in the parking lot.
5. An all-nighter means not getting up to pee!

You two are not there yet, right?

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#370987 - 06/08/05 09:25 PM Re: Old Farts???
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X (Paragon) - that was the funniest thing I have ever seen you post!
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#370988 - 06/09/05 01:41 PM Re: Old Farts???
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I'm there! What next????

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#370989 - 06/09/05 05:03 PM Re: Old Farts???
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Quote:

I'm there! What next????




Unfortunately, next - you are going to die!

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#370990 - 06/09/05 08:00 PM Re: Old Farts???
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not nice - not nice at all.

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#370991 - 06/09/05 09:10 PM Re: Old [censored]???
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I got married one...oh wait it was twice...actually it was three times. But my 1st and 2nd wife is the same person. It takes work both parts. You both have to be willing to change.

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#370992 - 06/10/05 06:12 PM Re: Old [censored]???
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Quote:

have more sex




This always works for me.

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