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#1739114 - 09/07/12 07:04 PM Need prayers for my family
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I haven't reached out like this on here before but my family can use all of the prayers we can get. My 11 year old adopted son, who has several mental health issues including Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder, went off yesterday after school while home alone with my wife. It was bad enough that he is currently facing 3 felony charges including domestic assault for attacking his mom (my wife) with a dog leash (using it like a whip and hitting her with the metal clip she is fine just a couple bruises and a sore shoulder). We will be having another hearing on Tuesday morning but right now it appears that he will be headed for a shelter with the potential for being placed in a Residential Treatment facility. He is our only child.

We could use prayers for strength, wisdom and endurance right now. We can see God working in this situation but wish it did not have to come to this.
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#1739125 - 09/07/12 07:14 PM Re: Need prayers for my family Purple Pride
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That's really rough PP, here's hoping for the best for all of you. I can't imagine what that must've been like for her and trying to maintain the knowledge that your son doesn't have the control over his actions that he should. I feel for him and hope that he gets all the care and attention he needs and not a just a punnishment and being written off to the process of the "system".

Be strong and lean on each other, you'll find a way through to whatever the end result needs to be.
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#1739127 - 09/07/12 07:21 PM Re: Need prayers for my family Purple Pride
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Prayers to you & your family. May your son find the help that it sounds like he needs and that you & your family find the strength, wisdom & endurance to get through it all.

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#1739128 - 09/07/12 07:24 PM Re: Need prayers for my family Purple Pride
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More prayers coming. I don't know what to say. I can't imagine the pain that you and your wife are enduring. Hopefully help and peace will come to all three of you.
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#1739132 - 09/07/12 07:26 PM Re: Need prayers for my family Purple Pride
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Stay strong and know your family is being though of by all of us.
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#1739138 - 09/07/12 07:33 PM Re: Need prayers for my family Purple Pride
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A prayer of comfort and healing for you and your family, and one for wisdom for the judge and other state officials.
God bless you all. <3
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#1739140 - 09/07/12 07:35 PM Re: Need prayers for my family Purple Pride
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Prayers to you and your family.

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#1739152 - 09/07/12 07:55 PM Re: Need prayers for my family Purple Pride
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Prayers to you and your family. Mental illness is hard to deal with - I hope he gets the help he needs.

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#1739169 - 09/07/12 08:07 PM Re: Need prayers for my family Purple Pride
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Sending prayers to your family
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#1739183 - 09/07/12 08:22 PM Re: Need prayers for my family Purple Pride
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God bless you in these tough times, and bless you for adopting and loving this boy.
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#1739192 - 09/07/12 08:36 PM Re: Need prayers for my family Purple Pride
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You and your family are in my prayers.
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#1739210 - 09/07/12 09:11 PM Re: Need prayers for my family Purple Pride
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Thank you all. When he is in a right state of mind he is really an awesome son. We are hopeful that this will help kick start the county to aid us in getting the services he needs to be successful.
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#1739231 - 09/07/12 10:18 PM Re: Need prayers for my family Purple Pride
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Purple Pride, I will definitely keep your entire family in my prayers. Mental illness in a loved family member is so difficult to understand and live with. May I suggest that you and your wife check out nami.org for support resources. It's the National Alliance on Mental Illness. A close friend of mine with a bipolar mom is a huge fan of the website and its support groups. Best wishes to all 3 of you.
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#1739240 - 09/08/12 01:12 AM Re: Need prayers for my family Purple Pride
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Thanks BurntSienna. smile Actually, my wife has volunteered with Nami until recently. We are both becoming more and more involved with the Minnesota Organization for Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (MOFAS) and I am a member of the Board of Directors for the Minnesota Association for Children's Mental Health (MACMH). Each of these organizations have a wealth of resources and wonderful volunteers who provide great support for families like mine. I try to promote each of them when and where I can. smile
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#1739280 - 09/10/12 10:09 AM Re: Need prayers for my family Purple Pride
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Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family PP....
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#1739295 - 09/10/12 12:22 PM Re: Need prayers for my family Purple Pride
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((hugs)) PP.
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#1739335 - 09/10/12 02:50 PM Re: Need prayers for my family Purple Pride
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Prayers coming your way from Pennsylvania.
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#1739387 - 09/10/12 04:15 PM Re: Need prayers for my family Purple Pride
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Prayers from Louisiana.

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#1739392 - 09/10/12 04:23 PM Re: Need prayers for my family Purple Pride
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You are in our thoughts, PP. I hope your son gets the care he needs.
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#1739457 - 09/10/12 06:01 PM Re: Need prayers for my family Purple Pride
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Wow. What a tough position to be put in. My thoughts go out to you and hope that you all get the help and assistance you need. frown
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#1739509 - 09/10/12 06:47 PM Re: Need prayers for my family Purple Pride
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I'm so sorry that you, your wife, and your son are having to go thru this. Prayers are being said that your son will get the help he desperately needs and that you and your wife will have the support you need to help him.
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#1739914 - 09/11/12 06:55 PM Re: Need prayers for my family Purple Pride
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Just a quick update. The courts adjusted the charges to just a misdemeanor for property damage in the hopes that the court process will be able to jump start additional services through the county. Our son was transferred to a non-secure shelter for boys that is across the street from a secure facility. If he has any behaviors the judge issued an open order for him to be transferred to the secure facility. We have a meeting with the county placement team on Thursday at 8:15 to determine the path the county thinks is best. We have asked for my son's public defender and one of the officers who was on scene to attend the meeting and provide their input.

Thank you all so very much for the thoughts and prayers. They are helping to sustain my wife and I through this time. I have never met any of you in person but feel blessed to have such caring people in my life.
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#1739945 - 09/11/12 08:16 PM Re: Need prayers for my family Purple Pride
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So glad to hear there is something positive. Will keep the prayers coming your way for Thursday morning to go well.
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#1739994 - 09/12/12 12:40 AM Re: Need prayers for my family Purple Pride
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I know you asked for prayers and I'm saying them now.

But can I just say wow. I am in awe of you and your wife, PP. What an amazing thing you did to adopt this child. Reading this thread about how you've become involved in agencies that work for the greater good of childen like your son is even more impressive. God works in strange ways as evidenced by your son's current trials. But God puts angels among us too and obviously, you and Mrs. PP must be counted in that group.

Lastly, may I echo your sentiments that while I've met some and only 'talked' to others, I feel blessed to have such caring people in my life too.

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#1740008 - 09/12/12 11:39 AM Re: Need prayers for my family Purple Pride
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Thank you TR. I am humbled by your comments. I do not think that Mrs. PP and I have done anything that any other parent would do which is to work so that our children are successful. We have been awed by watching God work in this situation and seeing His hand in all that has happened. It is not the path that I would have chosen to follow, but I do not have the wisdom of God who will work all things to good for those who love Him (Romans 8:28 paraphrase). We took our son into our home when he was 24 hours old so in all ways but biologically he has been ours his whole life. I had a neighbor ask me if I have ever considered just walking away from my son because of what he has done and the needs he has. I had to be honest and say that the thought has come into my head but it has left just as quickly because he is my son and I cannot just walk away from him, cannot give up on him. It is no different than if he were my biological son.
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