You can say that your bank is there and plans on being there to server your customers, their kids and their kids. You can tell them you feel the bank is strong and you're not looking for a job elsewhere. And you can tell them your banks financials are on the FDIC site for review by your customers and their accountants.
Reassure them with the truth.
You can't intimate that the regulators have rated you one way or another. If you say you're rated A-1 or something, the other bank has to sound like it is hiding something when they say they can't comment. And your regulator won't appreciate a call from your customers who asks them to expand on on "A-1" or "that they were pleased." I wouldn't lie and I wouldn't stretch the truth. I'd tell it the way it is at that moment. Don't put words in teh mouths of the regulators.
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AndyZ CRCM
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