Here's my two cents: watch out for loans where the CEO knows the applicant. As a former examiner, those were really difficult to distinguish from the loans to a protected member with better credentials. More often than not, Bank CEOs are white men -- and their friends are white men.
If I were in your shoes, I would bring the two or three stronger female loans to the CEO (or to your manager) and compare them line-by-line with the approved male. That's what an examiner is going to do -- and that's what you get paid to do. Watch the loan-to-friend scenario.
I'm not saying a bank cannot give a break to loyal customers. But, when you consider account relationships and length of relationships and the numerous underwriting guidelines and you still find that females were denied and had better overall credentials than males, there's a problem.