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Posted By: #12

Question - 07/25/06 07:39 PM

I was playing sand volleyball last night and twisted my ankle pretty bad. So I wrapped it up, planned on using crutches today, and thought I was doing good. Then I talk to my mother who insists I go and see the doctor. Do we ever get to an age where our parents don't think they know what's best? I'm 29, but I'm going to the doctor because my mom told me to!
Posted By: MichelleDawn

Re: Question - 07/25/06 07:44 PM

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I was playing sand volleyball last night and twisted my ankle pretty bad. So I wrapped it up, planned on using crutches today, and thought I was doing good. Then I talk to my mother who insists I go and see the doctor. Do we ever get to an age where our parents don't think they know what's best? I'm 29, but I'm going to the doctor because my mom told me to!




I'm 38 and got yelled at when I got my third cat. I'm thinking about getting a fourth and am nervous about telling Dad because when I mentioned it to Mom she gave me grief. I doubt it will ever end.
Posted By: The Incredible ComplyGuy

Re: Question - 07/25/06 07:45 PM

That's why at some point you just stop telling your parents things.
Posted By: CubDave

Re: Question - 07/25/06 07:46 PM

Absof*****glutely right, TICG!
Posted By: Anonymous

Re: Question - 07/25/06 07:47 PM

I'm 38, my 20 year old daughter lives with me, with my 9 month old grand daughter, and my mother still insists on telling me her opinion on everything (and she is the only one that doesn't live with me!)
Posted By: MichelleDawn

Re: Question - 07/25/06 07:47 PM

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That's why at some point you just stop telling your parents things.




And what do I say on the ocassions they are in my house? "I don't know what you are talking about Mom/Dad ... I only see two cats."
Posted By: Bimmer

Re: Question - 07/25/06 07:51 PM

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I was playing sand volleyball last night and twisted my ankle pretty bad. So I wrapped it up, planned on using crutches today, and thought I was doing good. Then I talk to my mother who insists I go and see the doctor. Do we ever get to an age where our parents don't think they know what's best? I'm 29, but I'm going to the doctor because my mom told me to!




I'm 38 and got yelled at when I got my third cat. I'm thinking about getting a fourth and am nervous about telling Dad because when I mentioned it to Mom she gave me grief. I doubt it will ever end.




SP, you're not gonna turn into one of those weird cat ladies are you???
Posted By: MelissaAnn

Re: Question - 07/25/06 07:53 PM

My mom ALWAYS thinks she knows everything about my life. When I call her to tell her things, she says "oh, I thought that would happen" or "I knew it!" Or "I was wondering how long it would take you to tell me" It drives me nuts. We don't talk very often, and we aren't close at all. I always just want to say "no you didn't!"
Posted By: Snow Bunny

Re: Question - 07/25/06 07:56 PM

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I was playing sand volleyball last night and twisted my ankle pretty bad. So I wrapped it up, planned on using crutches today, and thought I was doing good. Then I talk to my mother who insists I go and see the doctor. I'm 29, but I'm going to the doctor because my mom told me to!




No, you don't. Now, don't forget your manners, stand up straight, and don't stay out all night!
Posted By: steven1950

Re: Question - 07/25/06 08:02 PM

Don't complain; at least you still have a mom. My mom passed away five years ago, and I would gladly have her around to tell me what to do.
Posted By: Anonymous

Re: Question - 07/25/06 08:04 PM

Apparently, I'm the only one in here with an awesome mom.. now my mother-in-law on the other hand...
Posted By: Anonymous

Re: Question - 07/25/06 08:04 PM

Sorry to hear that Steven1950. I treasure my Mom as well. I thank God everyday she is still here with me! I can't even imagine life without her.
Posted By: Hrothgar Geiger

Re: Question - 07/25/06 08:07 PM

Heck, my 70 yr. old mother gave me a lecture on taking the proper combination of glucosamine and chondroitin (sp?) on my last visit.

Worth more of a laugh, in his last comedy special, Lewis Black talks about being invited to perform at some foreign correspondent's dinner where the President, Vice President, etc. would be guests. He wasn't happy with the restrictions being put on his act, so he called his parents. They told him to do the show. He called back the organizer and told whoever it was that he was only doing the show "because my parents are making me."
Posted By: A_G

Re: Question - 07/25/06 08:09 PM

That's ok - my parents are leaving for vacation (with my sister who still lives at home) at the end of this week. I moved out about a year ago. So I stopped over to the house this weekend and the first thing outta my mom's mouth is "You better not be thinking about having any parties while we are gone!"

I really have no room to talk though because I guess she knows me too well; there is already one in the works...(hey I can't let the pool and hottub go unused ) But hey it's the thought that she would even think I would one
Posted By: MadisonCali

Re: Question - 07/25/06 08:16 PM

Auditguy...I just had the same warning from my mother!

I'm house/dogsitting for them for the weekend, and she made sure to make me promise no parties. I thought she was kidding, but nope! She was dead serious!
I'm 31 and have been married for 6 years!
A party? Are you kidding me?

Oh, well. I'd rather have her be a little overprotective and overintested in my life than than not at all.

I can't think of a day when I didn't talk to her, or a week where she didn't frustrate me, but I love her and wouldn't trade our close relationship for anything!
Posted By: OkieOps

Re: Question - 07/25/06 08:24 PM

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Don't complain; at least you still have a mom. My mom passed away five years ago, and I would gladly have her around to tell me what to do.




I agree. I lost my mom 10 years ago next month. I used to get irritated with her, but it sure would be nice to get one of those phone calls now. Not trying to cause anyone grief, just be patient and let them be parents while you can.
Posted By: file queen

Re: Question - 07/25/06 08:34 PM

My folks are the same, but I was finally able to turn it around on them. Recently, my mom had her identity stolen, and neither of them knew what to do. So I walked her through the process, helped her write her letters, etc. Finally, there is a subject I know more about than my parents!
Of course, before they left, Dad nagged me about getting an oil change...
Posted By: #12

Re: Question - 07/25/06 08:45 PM

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Don't complain; at least you still have a mom. My mom passed away five years ago, and I would gladly have her around to tell me what to do.




I agree. I lost my mom 10 years ago next month. I used to get irritated with her, but it sure would be nice to get one of those phone calls now. Not trying to cause anyone grief, just be patient and let them be parents while you can.




Oh, don't get me wrong, I thank God every day that she's still around. And I will probably always listen!

Update: Surprise, it's just a sprain. Stay off it for a couple days, ice it, etc, etc. They said I probably shouldn't play softball tomorrow night though! Hmmm, well I probably better not call her and tell her I told you so, huh?
Posted By: HappyGilmore

Re: Question - 07/25/06 08:58 PM

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My mom ALWAYS thinks she knows everything about my life. When I call her to tell her things, she says "oh, I thought that would happen" or "I knew it!" Or "I was wondering how long it would take you to tell me" It drives me nuts. We don't talk very often, and we aren't close at all. I always just want to say "no you didn't!"





Melissa - instead of saying no you didn't, just turn it around and every time she tells you somehting, respond the same way to her as she does to you...
Posted By: BBoyd

Re: Question - 07/25/06 09:05 PM

Parent's Wish
Posted By: Peepers

Re: Question - 07/25/06 11:56 PM

I locked my parents in the basement years ago.

All is good now, except for the constant pounding.
Posted By: Miscuit

Re: Question - 07/26/06 12:56 AM

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I locked my parents in the basement years ago.

All is good now, except for the constant pounding.




LOL @ Peepers!
Posted By: DeeQ

Re: Question - 07/26/06 12:07 PM

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I locked my parents in the basement years ago.

All is good now, except for the constant pounding.




LOL @ Peepers!




Get some Excedrin, Peeps...
Posted By: Anonymous

Re: Question - 07/26/06 01:03 PM

Hey, don't knock dear ol' mom. Don't forget, when you showed up in her house, you couldn't even wipe your butt. She had to teach you everything. Then you became a teenager and acted like you were born knowing everything and she never knew anything--forgetting that if it weren't for her, you'd still have poop dribbling down your legs. For 18 years she doled out good advice, you ignored it for the last 5+ years you lived with her. Then, after you became an "adult" you continued to feed at the trough for 4+ years in college. Yes, you felt so independent, but you weren't. You continued to ignore her advice, though you continued to take her money and allow her to do your laundry and cook your meals when you came home. Now, you have a family of your own and you expect her to quit giving advice? Listen to the advice and be glad she's giving it. She has experiences you've never had and unless she didn't do a very good job raising you, she just might know what she's talking about.
Posted By: Anonymous

Re: Question - 07/26/06 01:05 PM

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Don't complain; at least you still have a mom. My mom passed away five years ago, and I would gladly have her around to tell me what to do.




I agree. I lost my mom 10 years ago next month. I used to get irritated with her, but it sure would be nice to get one of those phone calls now. Not trying to cause anyone grief, just be patient and let them be parents while you can.




Oh, don't get me wrong, I thank God every day that she's still around. And I will probably always listen!

Update: Surprise, it's just a sprain. Stay off it for a couple days, ice it, etc, etc. They said I probably shouldn't play softball tomorrow night though! Hmmm, well I probably better not call her and tell her I told you so, huh?




YOU MEAN YOU DIDN'T ICE IT IMMEDIATELY? You do need your mommy!
Posted By: #12

Re: Question - 07/26/06 01:08 PM

Of course I iced it immediately, do you think I'm dumb? Oh wait, don't answer that!

and to the previous Unregistered, I didn't "feed at the trough" through college. I did my own laundry, paid for my own food, and paid for college. Thanks for the advice though.
Posted By: Anonymous

Re: Question - 07/26/06 01:14 PM

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Of course I iced it immediately, do you think I'm dumb? Oh wait, don't answer that!

and to the previous Unregistered, I didn't "feed at the trough" through college. I did my own laundry, paid for my own food, and paid for college. Thanks for the advice though.




That was only one small part of the advice.
Posted By: #12

Re: Question - 07/26/06 01:17 PM

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Of course I iced it immediately, do you think I'm dumb? Oh wait, don't answer that!

and to the previous Unregistered, I didn't "feed at the trough" through college. I did my own laundry, paid for my own food, and paid for college. Thanks for the advice though.




That was only one small part of the advice.




But see, you're just assuming that I didn't heed my mother's advice for the first 18 years of my life. The only piece of advice that I did not listen to, was when she told me to stay out of banking. Otherwise, my mom and I have a great relationship and I value her opinion. I was just venting a little!
Posted By: Anonymous

Re: Question - 07/26/06 01:19 PM

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Of course I iced it immediately, do you think I'm dumb? Oh wait, don't answer that!

and to the previous Unregistered, I didn't "feed at the trough" through college. I did my own laundry, paid for my own food, and paid for college. Thanks for the advice though.




That was only one small part of the advice.




But see, you're just assuming that I didn't heed my mother's advice for the first 18 years of my life. The only piece of advice that I did not listen to, was when she told me to stay out of banking. Otherwise, my mom and I have a great relationship and I value her opinion. I was just venting a little!




I wasn't assuming anything. You were assuming the advice was intended for you. The advice was not intended for you individually. It was general advice to the group based on generalities of how many of us were raised! Those who can relate, will. Those who can't, won't. See ya!
Posted By: #12

Re: Question - 07/26/06 01:20 PM

Ohh, gotcha!
Posted By: Nanwa

Re: Question - 07/26/06 02:10 PM

I am afraid you only stop asking your parents for advice and listening to them after they are dead. Then, you wish they were around to give you more advice.

My nephew is 27 years old, and he NEEDS to listen to some adult, cause he just isn't getting it. But he won't, so, he is currently living in a garage, has no license, only has his phone on from week to week depending on when he remembers to pay the bill, and has his clean clothes strewn across the garage floor. His mom, dad, sister and us (his aunt and uncle) have tried to suggest,reason with, cajole, order, etc. to try and get him to understand that he has to work for a living and he is responsible for paying his own bills, but so far, nothing is sinking in. The reason he is in the garage is his sugar daddy (Grandpa) has died, so no more handouts, and he has worn out his welcome at his friends' places (he trashes their stuff, and they don't like it.) I told him it is going to get too cold to live in that garage soon, so he'd better be out before winter. We'll see.

Sorry about the rant; we just had to deal with this this weekend, and it is driving me nuts! To top it off, he ran into two of his friends from his high school jazz ensemble; one finished Harvard and has his own business, the other is at Julliard.
Posted By: Anonymous

Re: Question - 07/26/06 02:58 PM

Has your nephew had a mental evaluation?
Posted By: The Incredible ComplyGuy

Re: Question - 07/26/06 03:13 PM

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I am afraid you only stop asking your parents for advice and listening to them after they are dead. Then, you wish they were around to give you more advice.

My nephew is 27 years old, and he NEEDS to listen to some adult, cause he just isn't getting it. But he won't, so, he is currently living in a garage, has no license, only has his phone on from week to week depending on when he remembers to pay the bill, and has his clean clothes strewn across the garage floor. His mom, dad, sister and us (his aunt and uncle) have tried to suggest,reason with, cajole, order, etc. to try and get him to understand that he has to work for a living and he is responsible for paying his own bills, but so far, nothing is sinking in. The reason he is in the garage is his sugar daddy (Grandpa) has died, so no more handouts, and he has worn out his welcome at his friends' places (he trashes their stuff, and they don't like it.) I told him it is going to get too cold to live in that garage soon, so he'd better be out before winter. We'll see.

Sorry about the rant; we just had to deal with this this weekend, and it is driving me nuts! To top it off, he ran into two of his friends from his high school jazz ensemble; one finished Harvard and has his own business, the other is at Julliard.




The rule in my family has been that at 18 you have the choice to 1. Go to college, 2. Stay at home w/o going to college provided you work and pay room & board, or 3. Move out... period. Can only move back home (temporarily) if there's a bona fide emergency (illness, divorce, layoff, etc.) No parental welfare.
Posted By: RVFlyboy

Re: Question - 07/26/06 03:19 PM

On the other hand, I'm now at 48 and my mom is 75. I find myself most often telling her what she should and should not do now, as she tends to make worse and worse decisions these days. The roles have definitely reversed. And it's gotten worse over the past few years as my dad declined with Alzheimer's and then passed away in February. I guess that's the way it goes. The parents are now the children.
Posted By: Nanwa

Re: Question - 07/26/06 06:25 PM

My nephew has not had a mental evaluation, because he thinks we are all in the wrong. Also, you can't force him since he is supposedly an adult. He has been back to his mothers house three times since high school. Each time she says he can stay if he pays some of the bills and follows the rules of the house. Like doing his own laundry, helping with dishes if he joins them for a meal, etc. He refuses. Wants to live there for free with no responsibilities. Twice he stormed out after an argument; the third time, she told him to leave. He hasn't been back there in about 4 years, although they are on speaking terms.

MOML and I have decided to make ourselves scarce, because now, whenever there is an event at his mom's house, (like a graduation or a birthday) and we are going, his mom and/or he ask if we can come and pick him up. He lost his license to drunk driving. The problem: It is 2 hours out of our way (one way). We'd be willing to do it if someone (anyone) showed some appreciation, but there are no offers to pay for gas, not even a thank you. It is just expected cause it's family.