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#1298697 - 12/04/09 02:07 PM
Re: Advice from those who don't want children, please.
waldensouth
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I agree with the prior posters. Even when you have one, the question doesn't stop. I have two and got grief from a particular grandparent when I said we weren't having anymore. I heard that "But we'd like a few more grandkids." My response - you've got 5 other kids to hound. Go see if your (then) 13 year old daughter is ready to have one for you.
Why do people think that you need to keep up with them on the number of kids you have or don't have?
VolOps - my thought. Just walk away without answering the question. That should give them a hint that it's not a converstaion to be had.
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#1298712 - 12/04/09 02:17 PM
Re: Advice from those who don't want children, please.
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me too...I was told I would never be able to have children, so I am so thankful to have the one God blessed me with. I try my best to not take offense when somebody says...you have "just" one??? well my "one" is like having "five" rolled into "just one" but seriously I am thankful for the blessing. Ops...like everybody has said before, esp the one poster that mentioned...alot of people don't mean to be mean (of course I know some could really care less), I think they just feel so blessed and they "incorrectly THINK" you might miss out on a wonderful blessing...but so many times we are so ignorant in our thinking and it just takes time for us to grow up and realize...we aren't always right! from talking with you I know you have a great heart and wonderful head on your shoulders...you will be able to do the right thing in each circumstance!!! PLUS you've also got some great advice and ammunition above
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#1298726 - 12/04/09 02:31 PM
Re: Advice from those who don't want children, please.
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#1298746 - 12/04/09 02:45 PM
Re: Advice from those who don't want children, please.
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For April Fool's this year, I told a co-worker who hounded me constantly I was pregnant. She started jumping up and down, making a fool out of herself. Then I said, "April Fool's!"
She hasn't brought it up since! LMAO!!!
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#1299522 - 12/04/09 10:47 PM
Re: Advice from those who don't want children, please.
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You can always respond with another question...it fits any scenario.... Why do you want to know?
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#1299549 - 12/04/09 11:18 PM
Re: Advice from those who don't want children, please.
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If it makes you guys feel any better I have the 5 and I want two more (because I think at least 2 of the current ones are broken) you should hear people yelling at me for trying to populate the world with beautiful children. Now THAT was hijacking a thread.
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#1299556 - 12/04/09 11:24 PM
Re: Advice from those who don't want children, please.
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Ops I personally think it would be appropriate for you to start asking everyone else intimate questions about their sex lives: When are you gonna have kids? You: When was your last orgasm? You: How often does your husband go limp during the deed? You: I heard that the male performance pills weren't working for you, that's too bad.... Yup. Perfectly appropriate. Two wrongs don't make it right, but it makes it funny.
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#1299561 - 12/04/09 11:28 PM
Re: Advice from those who don't want children, please.
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^^^^ now that was funny!
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#1299625 - 12/05/09 03:22 PM
Re: Advice from those who don't want children, please.
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#1299811 - 12/07/09 03:14 PM
Re: Advice from those who don't want children, please.
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#1300438 - 12/07/09 09:33 PM
Re: Advice from those who don't want children, please.
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If it makes you guys feel any better I have the 5 and I want two more (because I think at least 2 of the current ones are broken) you should hear people yelling at me for trying to populate the world with beautiful children. Now THAT was hijacking a thread. I needed that laugh today!!! Sometimes I think my youngest is "broken" but I'm too old to even think about any more. I'll just see if I can keep the grandkids from ending up "broken" .
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#1300446 - 12/07/09 09:43 PM
Re: Advice from those who don't want children, please.
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If it makes you guys feel any better I have the 5 and I want two more (because I think at least 2 of the current ones are broken) you should hear people yelling at me for trying to populate the world with beautiful children. Now THAT was hijacking a thread. I needed that laugh today!!! Sometimes I think my youngest is "broken" but I'm too old to even think about any more. I'll just see if I can keep the grandkids from ending up "broken" . OHH!!! You should call AG's Mom... she might be interested in a son-for-son a swap, especailly if she would get grandkids out of the deal!
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#1300473 - 12/07/09 10:04 PM
Re: Advice from those who don't want children, please.
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But I'd keep the grandkids
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#1301176 - 12/08/09 08:15 PM
Re: Advice from those who don't want children, please.
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I HATE when I'm out sick for one day and everyone at work has decided I'm pregnant.
I finally flipped out at my mom about two years ago over this one and haven't heard a word since. I can live with other people saying stupid stuff like that, but she’s smarter than that. If I was pregnant, I'd be crying hysterically at my desk for 9 months (at least) not out sick for one day people! There are some really good suggestions here, but since I only seem to get to post about once every six months anymore I thought I'd add my own. A few years ago, I came in and told my boss that we just found out that our family was growing. I looked really sad and she started to sympathize with me (knowing my position on kids) . . . until I told her we were adopting another dog! I think she wanted to smack me but couldn’t quit laughing long enough to do it. I got my mother in law a throw pillow with something like “ask me about my grand-dogs” on it. She hasn’t asked about kids since! When someone asks when we are going to have kids, I reply that we already do. If they press further, I might mention a boy and a girl and if they press further still, I tell them that our “fur-babies” take up all the spare room in our house – with a townhouse and two Great Danes, it’s pretty tough for them to argue the point. Finally, I’m proactive about my stance. When coworkers, friends, etc. are talking about some situation with their kid or someone else’s kid, I’ll say “Reason 14,598 I don’t have kids!” The number has grown over time and the questions have gone to almost zero.
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#1301260 - 12/08/09 09:09 PM
Re: Advice from those who don't want children, please.
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Finally, Im proactive about my stance. When coworkers, friends, etc. are talking about some situation with their kid or someone elses kid, Ill say Reason 14,598 I dont have kids! The number has grown over time and the questions have gone to almost zero.
I use this, too! I always say, "yet another reason we don't want kids."
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#1301297 - 12/08/09 09:34 PM
Re: Advice from those who don't want children, please.
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Sorry guys, but those comments got to me. While I totally understand that not everyone wants kids <my niece and her husband included>, raising a child is the most amazing thing I ever did. It's not always fun and easy, but way worth it. Although I will admit when I see someone with two children that are fighting I thought to myself 'that's why I only wanted one'.
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#1301450 - 12/09/09 04:03 AM
Re: Advice from those who don't want children, please.
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I agree - raising kids is amazing - now that I have them, I am very thankful for the experience. If I had to do it over again, I'm not sure that I would knowing what I know now. It is really a Catch 22 and I fully respect those that choose to not have them. I for one, would never ask such a question as it is way too personal of a decision. I just thank god I had them when I was young. I have friends my age with toddlers - I think I would commit suicide. I just enjoy my five grandkids now. I know this probably didn't make a whole lot of sense, but it is a decision that is a lot more complex in today's world and too many people have kids without contemplating all the issues. For those that do, a decision not to have them is not illogical. Now if I can just get my daughters to STOP .
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#1301932 - 12/09/09 06:25 PM
Re: Advice from those who don't want children, please.
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Sorry guys, but those comments got to me. While I totally understand that not everyone wants kids <my niece and her husband included>, raising a child is the most amazing thing I ever did. It's not always fun and easy, but way worth it. (not to be smart...) I went skydiving, and I think it was one of the most amazing things I've ever done... but some people probably thought I was crazy and would never attempt such a thing... Actually my wife and I are at the stage of "not not-trying", if you know what I mean (most PC way I could think of saying it without getting too graphic). We are constantly bombarded by questions of when we'll have kids... HELLO, it's not a light switch!!! My wife too gets annoyed that if she was sick or just didn't feel well that everyone automatically assumes she's pregnant. It almost had her convinced once, and I had to tell her that everyone thinks that because we are newlyweds. People ask me if we're 'trying', and I turn around with "what, you mean right at this moment???".
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#1301994 - 12/09/09 07:21 PM
Re: Advice from those who don't want children, please.
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Good come back, SB. People just have no sense. It's nobody's business.
Last edited by Duchess Skittles; 12/09/09 07:22 PM.
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#1302057 - 12/09/09 08:17 PM
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Ops I personally think it would be appropriate for you to start asking everyone else intimate questions about their sex lives: When are you gonna have kids? You: When was your last orgasm? You: How often does your husband go limp during the deed? You: I heard that the male performance pills weren't working for you, that's too bad.... Yup. Perfectly appropriate. Two wrongs don't make it right, but it makes it funny. I know it doesn't help V, but these are just too darn funny. And it is really, really hard to not add more very helpful phrases like those above.
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