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#2021837 - 06/22/15 04:10 PM
Re: Prayers for my dad, please
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I'm so sorry, BQ. Has he had his CT scan yet? Yes, it came back negative, which should rule out cancer in the prostate and that, of course, is good news. However, they're back to square one in figuring out the prostate issue. The injections he had in his back have not helped either and the pain management doctor says there's nothing else she can do for him other than pain meds. I just don't understand that.
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#2021867 - 06/22/15 05:05 PM
Re: Prayers for my dad, please
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Have to echo TR ^^. My husband's grandfather was doing very poorly at one time and the hospital blamed it on his age. The family insisted and come to found out he had low sodium levels in his body! Within 24 hours of finding out the problem he was so much better. Sometimes it might just be something simple.
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#2021924 - 06/22/15 06:33 PM
Re: Prayers for my dad, please
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He just had some blood work done a couple of weeks ago and had an appt with his family doc to follow-up on the B12 injections he had over the past month. He didn't mention anything new coming of that visit, except that he prescribed the anti-anxiety med.
He's exhausted, burnt-out and depressed......and his lack of getting any decent sleep isn't helping matters either.
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#2021934 - 06/22/15 06:46 PM
Re: Prayers for my dad, please
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What about a second (or third) opinion? Someone has to be able to help him.
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#2021957 - 06/22/15 07:22 PM
Re: Prayers for my dad, please
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^^^This...Very Important!!
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#2022090 - 06/23/15 01:47 PM
Re: Prayers for my dad, please
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When I talk to my dad next, I'll see about someone going with him to his next appt. He has a companion that he lives with and she drives him to most of the appts, but I'm not sure if she actually goes into the room with him. As far as I know, he doesn't have a POA for medical, but something to definitely look into. Thank you everyone for your continued thoughts and prayers!
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#2022092 - 06/23/15 01:48 PM
Re: Prayers for my dad, please
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Yes, you should definitely look into that. My sister is POA for our parents since she lives where they do. It has been quite helpful at times.
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#2022349 - 06/23/15 09:08 PM
Re: Prayers for my dad, please
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Shortly after my post this morning, I got a call from my youngest brother that my dad had to be taken to the ER. His pain was so severe that he was having suicidal thoughts. The ER doc was not being the most helpful at first. After my brother nearly reamed her a new "you-know-what", they finally gave him an injection of pain medication (something stronger than morphine, I was told) to give him some relief.
Come to find out that he had NOT been taking the vicodin that his pain management doctor prescribed AS prescribed. He was supposed to be taking it daily, every 4 - 6 hours. Well, he was afraid of becoming addicted to it, so he decided to take it only when he absolutely had to. Grrrrrr.....
Anyway, the ER doc was adamant that he needs to take it, along with his other meds, AS PRESCRIBED. (He was also not taking one of the other meds daily like he was supposed to because it made him nauseous). My brother feels that he gets the picture now. To ensure this, his companion will have to make him get out of bed, give him something to eat and supervise him every weekday morning before she goes off to work so we know he's taking them.
In a couple of days, we will be speaking to him about the medical POA and living will. He may have already done one, but we want to make sure it's covered.
Again, thank you all for the continued thoughts and prayers.
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#2022446 - 06/24/15 01:34 PM
Re: Prayers for my dad, please
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Prayers for all of you caring for ailing parents. I feel very fortunate that my parents, who are in their 80s, are in relatively good health. My issue is that neither one is willing to set up a medical POA or living will. I'm their only child, and fear the day when my hands are tied... I've talked myself blue in the face trying to explain the benefit of both, but am met with complete resistance. Any advice is appreciated.
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#2022519 - 06/24/15 02:58 PM
Re: Prayers for my dad, please
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BQ, my dad has always hated taking medicine of any kind - even an asprin! I feel your pain. Hopefully, though with the issues identified, the companion can ensure that meds are taken as prescribed.
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#2022546 - 06/24/15 03:21 PM
Re: Prayers for my dad, please
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justsayjulie, have their dr talk to them about it. My mom had a will but nothing else until the dr pushed her with questions like 'do you understand that, at your age, resuscitating you will likely break your ribs and chest and you might never recover? What happens if you can't speak for yourself in an emergency room?' Drs are actually trained in how to approach this and explain how the patient could actually suffer more without the POA/living will. Additionally, You're not too young to have a POA and living will (advanced directive). Everyone should. They're as easy as filling out a form online and printing and signing it. You could start by giving them a copy of this article. There's a link to state advanced directive forms on that page too.
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#2022565 - 06/24/15 03:39 PM
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I mentioned the POA/living will information to my dad last night. I asked him if any of his doctors have ever talked to him about it and he said no. (That surprises me a little, because I get asked about it almost every time I go in!) Anyway, I emailed the link to the AARP article to him and told him we can discuss it more this weekend.
He was in much better spirits last night, which was quite a relief.
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#2022809 - 06/24/15 07:51 PM
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I know you can't say this out loud BQ, but at this point in his life, getting addicted to Vicodin is one of the least of his worries.
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#2022839 - 06/24/15 08:35 PM
Re: Prayers for my dad, please
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I know you can't say this out loud BQ, but at this point in his life, getting addicted to Vicodin is one of the least of his worries. No kidding! We may not have said it, but we all thought it! LOL
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#2023804 - 06/29/15 06:07 PM
Re: Prayers for my dad, please
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I can't imagine what your dad must be going through... and what you and your family are going through having to watch your dad suffer. My thoughts are with all of you.
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#2023990 - 06/30/15 01:56 PM
Re: Prayers for my dad, please
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I spoke to my dad over-the-phone on Sunday for quite a while. It seems his pain is more tolerable at the moment due to taking the Vicodin throughout the day. It between doses of that, he is also taking ibuprofen.
He seems to really have a stigma about having to manage his pain that way.......it's just "masking" the pain. I get that. I told him about a female friend of mine.....she is 30 yrs old and was diagnosed with Lupus at the age of 11. She has a tower of pills that she has to carry with her and take throughout the day, every day. These pills include pain meds, as some days taking them is the only way she can roll out of bed. She regularly sees a pain management doctor and will likely need to do so FOR THE REST OF HER LIFE, unless a cure for Lupus is found. Even then, the toll the disease has taken on her body is likely irreversable. I'm hoping that hearing about her story will get him to understand that if a 30 yr old has to do that just to be able to get out of bed each day, there is nothing wrong with him doing so until another solution can be found.
Thank you to all of you for your continued support!
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#2024014 - 06/30/15 02:35 PM
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Glad you are getting somewhere with him. I understand the stubbornness...but quality of life is equally important sometimes!
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#2024020 - 06/30/15 02:39 PM
Re: Prayers for my dad, please
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I wish the best for your father. My mother who passed away 7 years ago was in constant pain. She had a lot of illnesses, but like your friend she was determined to still get up and go. She told me one time that she would not let pain rule her life and she did not. She took a lot of medicine, but she somehow managed to keep going. Prayers for you and your family because it is hard to have someone in pain and not be able to help them.
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